MPI_Comm_Spawn called multiple times - c++

Question

We are writing a code to solve non linear problem using an iterative method (Newton). Anyway, the problem is that we don't know a priori how many MPI processes will be needed from one iteration to another, due to e.g. remeshing, adaptivity, etc. And there is quite a lot of iterations...
We hence would like to use MPI_Comm_Spawn at each iteration to create as much MPI process as we need, gather the results and "destroy" the subprocesses. We know this limits the scalability of the code due to the gathering of information, however, we have been asked to do it :)
I did a couple of tests of MPI_Comm_Spawn on my laptop (on windows 7/64bit) using intel MPI and Visual Studio express 2013. I tried these simple codes
//StackMain
#include <iostream>
#include <mpi.h>
#include<vector>
int main(int argc, char *argv[])
{
int ierr = MPI_Init(&argc,& argv);
for (int i = 0; i < 10000; i++)
{
std::cout << "Loop number "<< i << std::endl;
MPI_Comm children;
std::vector<int> err(4);
ierr = MPI_Comm_spawn("StackWorkers.exe", NULL, 4, MPI_INFO_NULL, 0, MPI_COMM_WORLD, &children, &err[0]);
MPI_Barrier(children);
MPI_Comm_disconnect(&children);
}
ierr = MPI_Finalize();
return 0;
}
And the program launched by the spawned processes:
//StackWorkers
#include <mpi.h>
int main(int argc, char *argv[])
{
int ierr = MPI_Init(&argc,& argv);
MPI_Comm parent;
ierr = MPI_Comm_get_parent(&parent);
MPI_Barrier(parent);
ierr = MPI_Finalize();
return 0;
}
The program is launched using one MPI process:
mpiexec -np 1 StackMain.exe
It seems to work, I do have however some questions...
1- The program freezes during iteration 4096, this number do not change if I relaunch the program. If during each iteration I launch 2 times 4 process, then it will stop at iteration 2048th...
Is it a limitation from the operating system ?
2- When I look at the memory occupied by "mpiexec" during the program, it grows continuously (never going down). Do you know why ? I though that, when subprocess finnished their job, they would release the memory they used...
3- Should I disconnect/free the children communicator or not ? If yes, MPI_Disconnect(...) must be called on both spawned and spawnee processes ? Or only spawnee ?
Thanks a lot!